How to help a Depressed Spouse:
The outlook of people suffering from depression is entirely different from yours though it is inadvertent. Depression, some times, is due to a traumatic experience or a life changing incident which people do not forget. At other times it is a second nature to people. Carrying in ones life with a victim of depression is very difficulty even if it is your wife her need for you is absolutely essential. You cannot escape from the obligation of looking after her. You should not forget a few things if you want to be of real assistance to her.
Never take depression in a spouse personally. In case your spouse stays in bed always it does not mean that she is boxed of your presence or that she doesnt like to spend time with you. The peculiar and odd thing about depression is that it disallows the person to do anything that they would love normally. They lose all interest in everything. You should not forget this point if you want to help with depression. Encourage them to do something and that too slowly and surely.
Egg them on to consult the doctor if they had not done so. Accompany them and speak for them if they dont feel like revealing all information. Take proper medication since it is good particularly when some one does not to go on. Tell them that medicines do not work like magic but take a few weeks to show their effects. They shouldnt discontinue the medications and give them a chance. Ensure medicines are taken on time and examine the side effects if any.
There might be many in your life that does not understand depression. You can explain to them or by saying that you both require privacy immediately. For some depression is not real but fictitious. They can understand what it is through personal experience. When you protect your spouse against depression during their worst period, it helps speedy recovery as they know you are there to fall back upon.
If depression is the offshoot of traumatic or life changing experience things become worse before their getting better. If your spouses depression is because of your cheating her you can help her by doing certain things. Dont using any relation ship issues with. It is not the appropriate time to talk about. They should continue medication as well as therapy before any discussion. Wait until the therapist agrees start to work through such problems and situation.